So here’s the thing.
I met this guy on the fated dating website that we don’t mention. We messaged back and forth for a few weeks, and eventually swapped numbers with every intention of meeting up.
Texting ensued (nothing dirty – I know you were thinking it) and we began to try and figure a time when we might be able to actually cross paths in the real world. Unfortunately, at that time, I had a show opening and was working stupidly late every night, and whenever it looked like something might be able to work, something came up and it never quite happened.
Then, he disappeared home to America for a month. A month passed, and nothing, so I figured it had pretty much fizzled out.
Then, a few days ago, I got a text out of the blue saying he was back in town at last, and did I fancy getting together for that drink.
Heck, my social calendar is kicking my 50,000 words in a month attempt so bad at the moment, why not? So I suggested Friday.
Please note, I suggested this on Monday.
On Tuesday night, a slight friendship crisis emerged, and Blondie and I both unanimously decided to cancel our Friday plans. Ho’s over Bro’s and what not. So the next morning I texted, nice and early, saying I couldn’t do Friday after all and was Saturday okay.
Saturday was okay. So that was that.
Saturday arrives, and (about half an hour ago) I received the following message:
‘My dad wants to take me out to dinner in London this evening… I’ll be around tomorrow if you can somehow swing it hun x’
I’m sorry… what? How does dinner with your dad constitute cancelling a hot date? Especially a date that is due to take place between 3 and 7.30pm, due to Ritzi’s extremely busy schedule. And you may say (as some on twitter did) that perhaps he rarely sees his dad and maybe that makes it okay… but I have deduced that since returning to the UK he is staying with his parents, so not in any way unfamiliar with their faces.
Therefore, I have been stood up in favour of a MAN DATE with the guy’s father.
In what world can a person not manage to be in town for a couple of hours to meet a girl for a drink before dinner with a parent, on a SATURDAY for crying out loud? Until half an hour ago, my Saturday plans consisted of 4 hours of writing, a trip to East London for work stuffs, a drink with a hot guy at 4pm followed by a quick outfit turnaround in the toilets of my office into a fabulous dress for Nora and my trip to the Prince Charles Cinema’s Labyrinth Masquerade Ball at 8pm.
I replied. Pretty swiftly.
‘Nope. x’
Good call? Or am I being a total diva?
RitziCx
You cancelled him first you DIVa ;-D
GASP! Traitor!
You are so hard! Give the boy a chance Ritzi!
And this coming from me… I know.
xx
Although I am not aware of the circumstances of the boy’s father/son relationship, when one cancels mere hours before for a date for something that is just a dinner – that is unacceptable. Dying parent. YES. House on fire. MAYBE. But a casual dinner you could have scheduled days before. I DON’T THINK SO.
As someone who arrive at least 10 minutes early to anything and is notorious for never flaking on a date or dinnner or coffee – I find this behavior unacceptable. As alwasys, I side with Ritzi on this one.
And quite frankly, if the fates have decided it won’t work out – it won’t work out. There are plenty of other straight fish in the sea. Just leave all the hot gay ones to me…
Much Love,
SGF
I’m with you Ritzi on this one. There is no way you should be side lined for a dad ever, unless of course dad is about to have his life support machine switched off!!! I think fate is sending you a message that this guy is unreliable and will always put you second. He’s had his chance, he blew it, next please
Jude xx @jadlgw
Why aren’t I surprised “a slight friendship crisis” in a female’s life is good reason to cancel a date, but a bloke’s father wanting to take him out for a reason the female does not know, isn’t?
Dad’s before Dame’s and all, y’know?
I think you’re being outrageously self-absorbed.
And I think you’re a douchebag.
Good idea. Ask for opinions and when one disagrees with your thoughts, resort to abuse.
How do any of us know why his father needed to see him? Could have been for all we know, and he didn’t tell you because, well, he hasn’t met you and it’s a private thing.
I don’t know, of course, but neither do any of us.
Never underestimate the power of the ‘slight friendship crisis’ in the world of the woman Cameron. This here is a blog of mirth. Yes, Ritzi goes into graphic detail about all the fun, weird and rude shizzle in her life for our reading pleasure, but there are some things that are best left out of the wicked world of the blogosphere – because they’re pretty darn serious and pretty darn personal. Speaking on behalf of my people, I only ever cancel a date when there’s a fucking good reason, normally putting someone else’s needs before my own. And I would be more than understanding if someone else did the same to me. But cancelling just because you fancy sharing a beer and a bite with someone you’re staying with with does not cut it with me. Fuck it, there are two other meals in the same day you can share with your dad! I say blow the old sod off for the night and go out with a hottie. I would…
*steps off soapbox, straps on crash helmet*
Honestly, I have changed my mind. Purely due to this idiot.
How dare he mock this. Just because you do not share every single detail with us he assume your friend has just broken a nail or something. What a complete dick this person is.
You make a date you keep it. You go and see your daddy after 7 o clock. Who on earth has dinner before 7 anyway?
Lx
Oh Livi,
Just because this bloke hasn’t shared with us the reason he had to meet his old man, it’s ok for everyone to assume he just ditched our erstwhile correspondent though, isn’t it?
Jeez! Enough of the Ritzi bashing! Thank god I’m on a train out of my weekend signal-less hole so I can get on here and sort this shizzle out!
So as Ritzi mentioned, I cancelled my Friday night date for the friendship crisis too – it was serious. But its someone else’s private stuff so we don’t talk about it on here.
If this guy’s dad dinner was serious, he surely would have said. I suspect his dad suggested dinner and mr composer was having trouble locating his backbone and couldn’t say, “sorry dad, I have a date with a girl I met on the internet.” So the date got cancelled.
To me this guy seems a little flimsy-spined for the gorgeous Ms. Cortez.
NEXT!
B McF xxx
You are officially not allowed out of London on a weekend ever again. Look how late you are to the party!
x
He’s playing you. Give it up. But don’t lose heart. Internet datting worked for me and my other half. 5 years married!!!